Thinking is Everything
I received a message from the people at Hay House publications a few weeks ago about a group of Clinton supporters watching the election results coming in. As the lead for Trump widened and it became clear to this group of people that their candidate was losing they momentarily slipped into despair, fear and similar negative feelings. But then someone suggested looking at what was good about this. The group quickly saw the potential of lots of good coming out of the election results: possibilities of good transformation, new blood, new perspectives and actions from a non-political vantage point and many more. The group turned toward feeling better and recovering their center and creativity. From this point of view they heal and can and do affect others around them.
Many times working with patients, I find they are dealing with disappointments, fears, and other negative thoughts that they must transform in order to regain their center and power. One patient had a husband that criticized her and condemned her regularly and needed to change her position with her husband. She also let her daughter talk back to her and demand that she behave in a way that makes the daughter happy but her sick in order to have her daughter in her life and influence her. How do you allow someone to do that to you? We all have choice. You always have choice and our major lesson is that your choice (your power) is really only for yourself (it is where your power and guidance lies – but you must speak up and demand what you want and need). When we do this we can be the example for our children; which is the only way we can really influence them. Telling them what to do or trying to force them to do something does not work well.
The general steps we take in owning our power are:
- Constant practice of loving, respecting and honouring your self.
- Give attention to all you appreciate about yourself.
- Look for it in others.
- Hold that energy.
Look deeper – allow the other if the daughter talks badly to you – say no! Respect yourself – holding yourself above the need to please. End the pattern when it starts to go inappropriate. You have two feet – walk away!
- Let the other person take the action (approach and then retreat, they must take responsibility for their part for a relationship to work).
- Forget making the other person love you (or tolerating disrespect), give up on that. You are not entitled to be loved by anyone outside you; but God always loves you and you can love yourself.
- Serve humanity.
In working with my own Mom I learned the importance of remaining independent of anyone else. Stay independent, responsible for your-self (no-one else will be). Create and maintain a healthy body. Stay on purpose (your unique purpose in life to bring forth that unique gift you have to give in serving humanity). Be in prayer and spirit which yields constant growth. Change your thinking – it is important. Affirm your health all the way until done. Ninety two and still working. Living fulfilled in talent and creativity until your last day. I am Independent and free, relying only on God. Vibrantly healthy and appreciating my body.
While Jim was interviewing me on this article a policemen stopped us on the highway. I was in such personal integrity and power that I told the policeman that I had a momentary lapse and that instead of writing a traffic ticket, he could give me a warning and we would both win. He was upset I was telling him what to do! He went back to the patrol car to look for his ticket book. He came back 30 seconds later and said he couldn’t find his book and was letting me go but not to do it again.
Stay in your power and bring your gifts to the fore! Love Skatties,